Love History


曾经发生,才有现在的我。

不必否认,也不必流连忘返。

记录下来,是对自己一个交待:這是我生命的旅程。

純純的愛,混淆的愛,一時間的驚艷,徐徐的暖風;愛情,在我生命中留了一筆。

虽然我没谈过恋爱,但我有喜欢的人哦!每一次,爱情都教会我好多事。

第一次,我认识了心动的感觉。喜欢上一个人,那感觉是掩饰不了的!喜悦与雀跃显露于形色,骗不了谁。

第二次,我认识了爱的真谛。爱,不只是感觉,还有更多层次要考量。

第三次,我认识了爱的基础。爱情是要从友情开始,只有深度了解了对方,才能判断他适合自己吗。不然感觉来得快,去得也快。

第四次,我认识了爱的时机,要珍惜與把握機會。友情加上安全感,让我喜欢上那脚踏实地的温暖。但他有心上人了。所以在还没陷入太深之前,放下吧。我得保护自己,也要对得起他的女朋友。别伤害人!這一次,時機總是不對。這一次,也是我哭得最多,也是第一次情緒化。走出來的路很漫長,但也學習了很多。 加油!

第五次,是个很温柔很欢乐很大度的男生。但爱,是要有在一起的可能,才能开始的。

第六次,是个很会关心人,充满温暖的男生。但爱是要有回应的。

我呢,越来越了解自己要的是什么样的爱情了。我要的,是和我一样,把眼光放在神那儿的另一半。

人善变,今天能彼此相望,但总有一天,都会望向不同的地方,渐行渐远;而神是永恒的,若彼此都望向神,那我们的脚步就会永远一致走向同样的方向,互相挟持。

– I love you, not what you can give. It’s your heart which captures me, your smile which brightens my day, your eyes which melts me.

– Nothing can hurt love; love covers a multitude of sins. (1 Peter 4:8)

– I’m not single, and I’m not taken. I’m simply on reserve for the one who deserves my heart. Cause they say good things take time. And you worth me waiting

– One day, I wish I can say to you:” Dear,  I’ve gone through trials, I’ve withstood temptation, I waited,  for you.”

– When I’m older and my daughter asks me who my first love was, I wanna be able to point across the room and say he’s right there.

– Marriage is for good, divorce is not an option.

– Attention to all, intention in none.

– Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. (1 Cor 13: 4-8)

– I want a man who will said to me when we have conflict, " Darling, let’s look at the bible and see how does God say about this?"

1 Cor 13:4-8
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 
  • Can lead me spiritually
  • Faithful
  • Accountable
  • Patient  will not angry easily, not violent
  • Can talk a lot with me, discuss thing together, share our lifes
  • Humble
  • Think of others
  • Appreciate me
  • Does not smoke, does not gamble, does not addict to anything
In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question:
“What kind of man are you looking for?”She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking, ‘Do
you really want to know?’
Reluctantly, he said,”Yes.”She began to expound…“As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to
ask a man what can you do for me that I can’t do for myself?
I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any
man…or woman for that matter.
I am in the position to ask, ‘What can you bring to the table?’”

The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.

She quickly corrected his thought & stated, “I am not referring to money.
I need something more.
I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life.”
He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain.
She said, “I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I
need conversation & mental stimulation. I don’t need a simple-minded man.

I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don’t
need to be unequally yoked…believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe
for disaster.

I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don’t
need a financial burden.

I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a
woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded.

I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and
game-playing are not my idea of a strong man.

I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader and
provider to the lives entrusted to him by God.

I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must
respect him.

I cannot be submissive to a man who isn’t taking care of his business. I
have no problem being submissive…he just has to be worthy.

And by the way, I am not looking for him…He will find me. He will
recognize himself in me. Hey may not be able to explain the connection,
but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a help-mate for
man. I can’t help a man if he can’t help himself.”

When she finished her spill, she looked at him.

He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said,”You are asking a
lot.”

She replied, “I’m worth a lot”.

Does he have goals and ambitions? When you commit to spending the rest of your life with someone, you not only commit to him, but his work ethic, his time management and how those things will affect your future family. Does he take his job or goals in life seriously? Is he wise with his time and money? Does he set goals or have a plan of what he wants to do with his life?Yes, life happens and the economy isn’t perfect. but if you feel he’s lazy, often blows off work obligations or is unable to hold down a job, those things are a major red flags. In this case, you will want to reassess your relationship.

How does he behave under stress? Particularly in the beginning of a relationship, we are all on our best behavior — especially when we’re really into someone. We tend to hide some of our shortcomings and character flaws. Try to take note of how your guy reacts in a variety of situations. It’s easy to smile and put on your best self when you’re enjoying a nice dinner together or taking long walks on the beach. How does he react when he has a pressing deadline or he’s stuck in rush hour traffic? Can he keep his cool in difficult situations or is he easily provoked?

Keep in mind we are all human and it’s impossible to find someone who is happy 100 percent of the time. Bottom line: Find someone who can roll with the punches, who lessens not adds to your own stress, and doesn’t make you feel like you’re walking on eggshells when problems arise.

How does he handle conflict in the relationship? When you have a difference of opinion or misunderstanding, does he shut you out or does he want to talk things through? Does he try to validate your feelings or is he more concerned about being right? Conflict is a normal part of any relationship. You take two people with different backgrounds and personalities and there will inevitably be a disagreement at some point. I like these words by Family Advocate Bruce C. Hafen in regards to conflict: “The difference between a successful and an unsuccessful marriage is not in whether there are such times of tension, but in whether and how the tensions are resolved."

Does he give you wings or suffocate you? When you tell him about being accepted into a masters program or how you would love to get into photography, does he encourage and support you? Does he make you feel capable and strong or does he belittle your aspirations and feel threatened by your successes? Especially when it comes your dreams, you want someone who will buoy you up, not hold you back from all you can become.

Does he have any addictions? Pornography, excessive alcohol consumption, drug use and wasting large amounts of time playing video or computer games are several huge red flags. Be wary of someone who may be hiding such behavior and don’t turn a blind eye if you suspect something is amiss. You don’t want to marry someone who you think you can fix or who exhibits reckless or impulsive behavior. This is your life and happiness at stake. Bringing uncontrolled addictions into a marriage is just a recipe for misery and guarantees a life of hardship.

Does he respect you? This one is a biggie. Sometimes we can mistake our partner’s feedback as constructive criticism, when really it’s just a sneaky way of saying, “I want you to be, act or look a certain way." When you offer your opinion, is he sarcastic or condescending? Or, do you feel heard and valued? Do you feel you have to act or look a certain way around him to feel loved or accepted? When considering your future spouse and father for you children, choose someone who will treat you as his equal, who will respect you as his partner, lover and friend.

Am I a happier, better person because of him? Probably one of the best indicators of knowing if he is your Mr. Right is that you feel like a better person for knowing him. Yes, his text messages give you butterflies and his hugs and kisses make you melt like butter. But do you truly cherish and enjoy your time together and do you feel like he builds you up and brings out your best qualities? Are you a happier, more complete person because he is a part of your life?

Marriage takes work, it takes commitment and a high degree of patience and tolerance from both partners. Don’t get so caught up in the idea of marriage that you don’t stop to evaluate the person with whom you will share everything emotional, mental and physical. When considering whether your man is truly marriage material, remember these wise words from Family Advocate David O. McKay: “During courtship we should keep our eyes wide open, but after marriage keep them half-shut. – See more at: http://familyshare.com/how-to-know-if-he-is-marriage-material#sthash.QvI67bVH.dpuf

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